If you have been reading my blogs very long you may be asking yourself, or someone else, and perhaps would even like to ask me, “Okay, so you say that this power you call love is a very special power which is the most powerful source of creative activity in the Universe. You’ve used a special term for it, calling it ‘agape’ and saying it is not just any love, but a special type of love. But, honestly, I don’t understand. It simply seems to be Greek to me.” And, when speaking of the term ‘agape’ you would be right; its origins are in the Greek language. Let me try to explain why the Apostle John identified this universal, invisible, unifying and creative force to be God.
February, the month we are in as I write this article, has become known as the “love month” because of the influence which Valentine’s Day has had on the world. In fact, because of a sometimes unwelcomed quirk in my brain, I usually awaken around midnight and find myself wide awake. This is when I do much of my research and writing like I’m doing now on this article. In fact, this is the morning of Valentine’s Day, and this day has a very special meaning to me this year because 25 years ago at this time there were several major changes which took place in my life that changed the direction of my life forever. I had been experiencing a frustration that my book, which I now call simply “Revealed” was not being sold on the open markets, and I felt that the years of research I had placed in it was a waste, so I laid it aside. Along with that, my father had died that spring, a person who I was fortunate enough to be able to claim as not only to have been raised by, but also to have as my best friend. However I was experiencing some personal successes in my life by achieving a Masters of Education in Counseling that spring and my income sources was to change to a totally different and more enjoyable direction than I had expected.
But that was not the most unexpected thing that happened to me that spring. You see, Genie and I had not met yet on Valentine’s Day 25 years ago. But that spring as I set in a classroom to be trained for a new job I met this woman with the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen. While these eyes were sad, confused and frustrated I knew that, regardless her background, I needed to know her. There was a problem, however, Genie and Terri wanted to go dancing but my two left feet made me suddenly become shy of such an opportunity. The next day I saw her leave the classroom, obviously upset, and the emotions within me were overwhelming. The next day I finally had built up enough courage to ask her for a date only to be told that she had left the training.
She was gone. My heart sunk. I had missed my chance to do something I had thought I would not do again since the divorce with my former wife several years earlier. I’m definitely the type of man who needs companionship, I knew that. I delayed. I felt the pain of loss, again. However, through the encouragement of a fellow student in that program, I was fortunate enough to be able to have a program director/owner who was able to tell that I was sincere in my wanting to contact Genie and she found it in herself to break all traditional protocol and gave me Genie’s address, to whom I immediately wrote. (Thank you Mary Ann.)
Now Genie said later that she did not know which one of the men in the training class I was; but she agreed to meet me for a country music concert in a small city in mid-western Kansas and the rest is history, as some would say. But it really is not that simple. As we’ve learned about one another, we found that our lives have been filled with “near misses” of possible meeting one another before this time throughout the previous 20 years. We had lived in the same cities, went to the same schools for some classes, even worked at some of the same places; but always at different times, though once we worked at the same place at perhaps at the same time but only in different buildings.
Coincidence? I think not. I’ve always believed that too many coincidences just cannot add up to be a coincidence. If there were not a type of divine intervention in Genie and my meeting, then faith in divine intervention is in vain. Marrying Genie has been one of the best decisions I have ever made and I am right now using this blog to tell the world I love her, my wife, my Valentine and I always will.
While my love for Genie is beyond my ability to express with words, and while it has an element of agape love in it, it is not agape in its truest form. It began with a high degree of erotic love as is common between a man and woman, which later developed into a true and sincere friendship which the Greeks would call philias love. It has only been the last few years that we have really made progress toward the recognition of the Spirit of God within us and between us to the point of realizing that the love between us is more than can be explained for it not only holds us together, it holds the Universe together.
Agape love is that energy which holds the electron circling around the nucleus of an atom, and the planets circling around their stars. Agape is the power which makes it possible to call someone their brother or sister and truly care for that person even when they are rude, lewd or even crude, not of our culture or ethnic group or even our religious orientation. It is not the mush of what is promoted as love in the world’s songs or its movies, but instead it is a true, steadfast, immutable force of absolute truth with God attempting to express himself as saying, “You are worthy of life, of being the creature I have created you to be, as my image.” It is unconditional, holding no absolutes for the receipt of this love. It is pure, simple, honest, open, and unapologizing. It is forgiveness when we feel we have done the unforgivable; and it is guidance when we know there is a better way. Agape love is a basic logical emotion which says you are loved rather you know it or not, for your own good rather you feel worthy of it or not.
That is why the Apostle John proclaimed that God is Agape. No force of darkness can overcome this power of love. No amount of time can ever make one forget the experience of this type of reality. It is only through the realization that God believes that each and every one of us are important to his creation and that he truly does care for us that the realization of what Agape love can become understandable.
Thank you Genie for being my wife. Happy Valentine’s Day my love. Namaste’, my dear one, I see the Spirit of Christ and the Holy Creator in you.
And thanks to the Creator God for sharing his spirit with us to make life possible and for sending his son to show us the way of this life, this love. We should all wish this Creator, and his son, a Happy Valentine’s Day also.