So, you’re faced with making a decision. A task which most everyone faces with the feelings of dread and intimidation from things unknown and unknowable. How can one possibly make the right choice? How can anyone know how to decide what is not only best for the current day, but for many years to come and, indeed, throughout the future? It occurs nearly daily for some of us, deciding what to feed our families, where to have them educated, where we should work, who we should contact today and on and on. These may or may not be earth-shaking decisions to everyone, but to you and those close to you they are important and the decisions you make about these things today can have a far reaching effect upon many peoples’ futures. The presidential election, next month, is a good example of this as is such decisions you may be considering at this time about whether or not to be supportive of such things as gun control, environmental issues, right to life vs. right to choose, and on and on. But the real question is how does a person, faced with the need to make difficult decisions, do so? Let’s look at a possible process which has been used for millennia:
- First we must sit down in a quiet place and, preferably with pencil and paper (or computer) in hand, clearly define what the decision is we must make. Be as brief as possible but be precise and complete in your description. Keep it in one paragraph of less than 50 words.
- Define the importance of the decision which means simply, why is this important to you. Edit out anything you have read as to why it is important to someone else which you’ve seen on social media, the news or which your friends have said in common conversations or even social gatherings. Here you want to state only why it is important to make the right decision to you and your own family members.
- Next, draw a line down the middle of a piece of paper if you have two choices (2 dividing lines for 3 choices, etc.) and label the top of each column with the name of the central figure of each choice. The process from this point is to, in one or two word phrases, list both positive and negative reasons for making that choice.
- Place a plus before the point if it is a reason for deciding to select that choice, or a minus sign if the point is a reason against choosing that way. If the point carries significant importance, either positive or negative, place a number from 1 to 4 in front of the plus or minus sign to show added significance to the point. Be careful with this step, while this is a personal decision making process open to your own personal interpretation, you want to make certain that the decision you make is based on facts, not just emotional influences. Do your “homework” here, find out what the records say about the items you have on your list. What have been the results of such decisions before. Check historical records of similar decisions in the past. In short, make certain you are informed before proceeding with your decision. This could take several days so don’t put this process off till the last minute.
- Now that you have your choice lists built, sit down with chart in hand and make a conscious decision to clear your mind and to ask the Spirit of God to guide you into making an informed choice. Before looking again at your chart, meditate a few minutes asking your spiritual guide to give you the wisdom needed to make the right choice. Then in a quiet, relaxed state, look at your lists and read it over carefully to be certain there are no other points which need to be added. If not then carefully add the number of plusses and place at the bottom of each list column. Then do the math. The resulting numbers are the logical indicator of the most obvious decision to be made. The column with the end highest number of positive points is most likely the choice which should be made. But this is sometimes not absolute, and this is why doing this last decision making process in a prayerful/meditative state is so important.
- After seeing the resulting columnar figures and seeing which choice has the highest positive results, you may find yourself in a very disturbing situation. The choice you originally felt was best may not at all end up being the one indicated by your chart as being the most logical choice for your situation. This is then the time that we must decide to go back into prayer and ask our guide to give us peace concerning the decision. If the chart shows the decision should be one which goes against our advisors we depend upon in the world, then we must be able to make that choice with a pure heart and clear conscious to prevent our suffering from guilt or withdrawing from our friendships after the decision has been made. In prayer, ask that whatever decision is made, that you are able to make such decision with a clear conscious knowing that you are responsible for whatever results such decision causes.
- Finally the time of decision will come, and if you have successfully waded through the process described above then you will be able to state your decision boldly, confidently and without hesitation. While this process can be learned and internalized, not needing to be done on paper or in a computer, it is usually best to learn to do it on paper first. Besides, it is the easiest way to be certain that you are being fair to yourself and your subject with less chance of missing something accidently or cheating. While the process does take time, if the decision is an important one like the up-coming presidential election, and if you are having problems making that final decision, this process can make it much easier to know how to decide.
Now it should be obvious that I am placing this post in my blog a month before the presidential election this year of 2017 because of the importance I believe that such election should hold for everyone. I am not here going to try to influence your decision as to whom you should vote for. If you follow me at all, especially on Facebook, then you already know how I feel about this election. But I wanted to take this opportunity to teach my readers a little of the knowledge I have gained through the years about how to apply a little of the psychological, sociological and spiritual information I’ve accumulated through the years of education and research. I hope this helps you in developing a better and more effective decision making process for yourself, whether spiritual, medical, social or political or any other choice you find you must make. Now take these notes and practice them on the upcoming election. I think we all need the practical help this can provide.